from you but only raw

I noted a while back a quote that should define the heart of not just an elder, but also any brethren, and any friend. Mutual heartbreaking should move you before the throne faster than you can respond with an ouch. And when the response is automatic, then you know you're getting somewhere.

But there's also something deeper, a twinge of where you want to be. It's not just the em- and sym- pathy twins that move you, but the incomprehensible hurt as if you were the victim, that for a moment catches your breath. And in that moment, you can feel for them as He feels for them -- a realness unmatched. Go there. That's where you and your quote want to be.